There’s a paradox in thinking that you’re better than other girls, when your whole reason for feeling that way is because you think your gender is so inherently inferior that you want to dis-identify with being a girl altogether.
When you cook for somebody, cook out of love. Feeding another mouth is nothing more than a good deed. Don’t go looking for attention or appreciation in return for your cooking. Just savor watching your diner enjoy their food. Be humble about your food and kindness.
…especially if the one you are feeding has done so for you all your life only out of love.